Inspiration, encouragement, and support for single Christians who may or may not feel called to singleness, but who desire to live purposeful lives for Jesus Christ.

HomeContact UsSitemapWhat's New  
 Christian Singles living purposefully for Christ!

 Bible Reading

 Mailing Lists
 Bible Reading
 Weekly Devotional

 Contact Us

 About Us
 Statement of Faith
 Mission Statement
 Your Privacy
 Make a Donation


This is just one of many books you'll find in our online bookstore!



I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.

Jesus (John 14:18)

A crucified life cannot be self-assertive. It cannot protect itself. It cannot be startled into resentful words. The cup that is full of sweet water cannot spill bitter-tasting drops, however sharply it is knocked.

Amy Carmichael in Gold By Moonlight

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Proverbs 3:5-6

I saw him again today, Lord,
Just a glimpse,
in a crowded street,
But it was enough...
Enough to open the wounds again
To allow the bitter memories
of those hard words,
broken promises and the mistakes I made,
to come flooding back.
I almost got caught, Lord.
Caught in a wave of self pity, self recrimination and guilt.
And then I remembered...
Remembered that failure
brought to you and confessed,
Is failure forgiven,
forgotten, dealt with.
So now I can look back
to that experience —
thankful for lessons learned.
I can look up to you — confident that you can create beauty
out of the ashes of my mistakes.
I can look forward
to the future —
at peace.

Marion Stroud in Celebrate Friendship

In my praying I find I do with God what I do with other people in forming and nurturing intimate relationships. I disclose myself in the hearing of Another with whom I feel safe and related. I come to know I am known by God, not just because God is all-knowing, but because I have freely made myself known. In prayer, God reveals himself to me, not just because I think about what I have come to know about him, but through a contemplative understanding of what those things mean to me and for me. My self-disclosure in the presence of the one who already knows me through and through, leads me to a self-awareness which is deeper still, and which I can disclose with increasing confidence. The cumulative effect of this kind of praying is an abiding and increasing realization that I belong uniquely to God.

Keith Clark in Being Sexual and Celibate

It is sooner or later found that the most perfect love cannot utterly satisfy the heart of man. All our human intercourse, blessed and helpful as it may be, must be necessarily fragmentary and partial. The solitude of life in its ultimate issue is because we were made for a higher companionship. It is just in the innermost sanctuary, shut to every other visitant, that God meets us. We are driven to God by the needs of the heart.

Hugh Black

True peace doesn't come from the absence of trouble. It comes from the presence of God


For whatever period of time I am single, by God's grace I will be totally His in body, soul, and spirit. I will claim no time, aspirations or interests of my own and will seek only to please Him. And as a single woman, I will pursue those same qualities that God values in a wife and mother - a gentle, quiet, serving, submissive, trusting spirit.
    If God's plan for me is to become a wife and mother, then I will wait patiently, without fretting, until God reveals the husband of His choice. In the meantime, however, marriage cannot be my pursuit. I must pursue Him (Ps. 62:5).

Nancy Leigh DeMoss

The best thing about being single is the time I get to spend alone. The worst thing about being single is the time I have to spend alone.

Annette on the PS Discussion Board

Teach me to feel another's woe;
To hide the fault I see;
That mercy I to others show,
That mercy show to me.

Alexander Pope in "The Universal Prayer" (1738)

Anger is a blocked goal to fulfill a need in my own way.


It is not by accident that the happiest people are those who make a conscious effort to live useful lives. Their happiness, of course, is not a shallow exhilaration where life is one continuos intoxicating party. Rather, their happiness is a deep sense of inner peace that comes when they believe their lives have meaning and that they are making a difference for good in the world.

Ernest Fitzgerald

God has wonderful things in store for us singles when we let go and get involved with the richness and rhythm of life.

Luci Swindoll in Wide My World, Narrow My Bed

I was regretting the past, and fearing the future. Suddenly, my Lord was speaking: 'My name is not I WAS; When you live in the future with its problems and fears it is hard, I am not there, for my name is not I WILL BE. When you live in this moment it is not hard, I am here, for my name is

Author Unknown

Read previous quotes.

In God's eyes, there are no surprises. We humans, with our limited perspective, are sometimes stunned by the events He allows. But God always has a plan and a provision.

Author Unknown

The gift of virginity, given to everyone to offer back to God for His use, is a priceless and irreplaceable gift. It can be offered in the pure sacrifice of marriage, or it can be offered in the sacrifice of a life's celibacy.

Elisabeth Elliot

'God makes a home for the lonely. Only the rebellious dwell in a parched land' (Ps. 68:6). If I ever find, as a single, that I cannot cope with feelings of loneliness or unfulfillment, it is an indication that I am rebellious - unwilling to find all my fulfillment in God Himself.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss

One with God is a majority.

Billy Graham

The first duty of love is to listen.

Paul Tillich: 1886-1965

I remember in old days almost desperately repeating to myself these lines from Tersteegen:

Am I not enough,
    Mine own?
Enough Mine own
    for thee?
Am I not enough
    Mine own?
I for ever and alone,
I, needing thee

It was a long time before I could honestly say, 'Yes" to that question. I remember the turmoil of soul as if it were yesterday, but at last,
oh the rest, 'for in acceptance lieth

Amy Carmichael in Candles in the Dark

My most earnest of all pleas to singles is abandonment of the self, surrender to Christ of all unfulfilled longings, an unequivocal willingness to receive whatever God assigns, and a determination to practice the sacrificial principle of Isaiah 58:10-11. Life becomes not only far simpler, but surprisingly joyful and free.

Elisabeth Elliot

To live a spiritual life we must first find the courage to enter into the desert of loneliness and to change it by gentle and persistent efforts into a garden of solitude.

Henri J. M. Nouwen

And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.

Abraham Lincoln

But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided... This I say I for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is seemly and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.

1 Cor. 7:32, 34-35

Everybody can be great...because anybody can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world; Holding forth the word of life; that I may rejoice in the day of Christ, that I have not run in vain, neither laboured
in vain.

Philippians 2:14-16

For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.

Isaiah 9:6

A thousand voices clamor for our attention, and a thousand causes vie for our support. But until we have learned to be satisfied with fellowship with God, until he is our rock and our fortress, we will be restless with our place in the world.

Erwin W. Lutzer

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Proverbs 3:5-6

No one who has been redeemed by Christ has the right to be footloose and fancy-free. Singleness, whether for a few years or a lifetime, is not a time to be without responsibility but a time to serve Christ wholeheartedly and full time, regardless of our vocation.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss in Singled Out for Him

If you can't have the best of everything, make the best of everything you have!

Source Unknown

I will not willingly offend, nor easily be offended. What's amiss, I'll strive to mend, And endure what can't be mended.

Isaac Watts

Let not our longing slay the appetite of our living.

Jim Elliot

One of the reasons so many singles are dissatisfied is that they're looking for a change in status to define their significance, rather than finding a purpose in life, granted by God, that gives them significance regardless of the status they're in.

Tony Evans

To avoid temptation, remember HALT. Don't get too:
  • Hungry
  • Angry
  • Lonely
  • Tired

Charles Stanley

When we struggle for the approval of others, we disregard the unconditional acceptance of God. Essentially, we tell Him His love is not good enough and we need the regard of others first. Jesus told His disciples to seek the kingdom of God first and all their needs would be met. (Matthew 6:33)"

Charles Stanley

Be anxious for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7

May every soul that
    touches mine
Be it the slightest contact
Get therefrom some good
Some little grace,
    one kindly thought
One aspiration yet unfelt
One bit of courage
For the darkening sky
One gleam of faith
To brave the thickening
    ills of life
One glimpse of
    brighter skies
Beyond the gathering
To make this life

George Eliot

When we cannot be useful we must be patient, and when we cannot work for God we must sit still quietly for him.

Matthew Henry

For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:38-39

When we feel as if God is nowhere, He is watching over us with an eternal conscioiusness, above and beyond our every hope and fear.

George MacDonald

It is sooner or later found that the most perfect love cannot utterly satisfy the heart of man. All our human intercourse, blessed and helpful as it may be, must be necessarily fragmentary and partial. The solitude of life in its ultimate issue is because we were made for a higher companionship. It is just in the innermost sanctuary, shut to every other visitant, that God meets us. We are driven to God by the needs of the heart.

Hugh Black in
Pursued by Love Everlasting

Prayer is not controlling but rather a helplessness to do anything and leaving it in God's hand to do the doing. It is not because we prayed that our prayers are answered, it is because we can do nothing and as we leave it in God's control (through prayer) He can then work on that situation. this way God gets the glory. Otherwise, we would.

Catherine Marshall in
Adventures in Prayer

According to Genesis 2, God created Adam first and put him in the garden alone. Then the Lord said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make a helper fit for him' (2:18). This is not necessarily an indictment of Adam's fellowship with God.... Rather, the point is that God ... created us not to be cul-de-sacs of his bounty, but conduits. No man is complete unless he is conducting grace (like electricity) between God and another person. (No single person should conclude that this can happen only in marriage!)

John Piper in
Desiring God

One of the greatest advantages of the single life is freedom -- freedom to come and go as much as we please without having to consult with husband, wife or children.... But freedom does have responsibility. One day I shall have to account for how I used my freedom. Have I been selfishly indulgent, living to please myself, wasting my time? Have I spent my time wallowing in self-pity about my single state or about some problem? ... One of the keys to a fulfilled life is a willingness to give ourselves for others. Jesus said, 'For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it.'

Elizabeth-Ann Horsford in Complete As One

How good it is to realize that God will undertake
For all who, burdened, cry to Him, "Help me for Jesus' sake."
For through His Son He has for all not only sin's release,
But grace for every trial of life. He keeps the soul in peace.

Sometimes when we implore the Lord to meet some special need,
It seems as if His ear is deaf, no matter how we plead.
But up above the leaden skies, He watches o'er His own;
He sees our tear-drops, hears our cry. No, we are not alone!

For every trial, care, and cross, He giveth us more grace,
And every storm-sky has its rift that shows HIs loving face.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous, it is true,
But He delivers, bless His name. He sees His children through.

Robert E. Mortensen

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

—Galatians 5:22-23

When we ... stop asking, 'Why am I alone?' and start asking, 'Why am I here?' our whole world will change — for the good.

Michelle McKinney Hammond

But suppose that what you are up against is a surgeon whose intentions are wholly good. The kinder & more conscientious he is, the more inexorably he will go on cutting. If he yielded to your entreaties, if he stopped before the operation was complete, all the pain up to that point would have been useless.

C. S. Lewis in A Grief Observed

We should pray by fixing our mind upon some pressing need, desiring it with all earnestness, and then exercise faith and confidence toward God in the matter, never doubting that we have been heard. St. Bernard said, 'Dear brothers, you should never doubt your prayer, thinking that it might have been in vain, for I tell you truly that before you have the words, the prayer is already recorded in heaven. Therefore you should confidently expect from God one of two things: either your prayer will be granted, or, that if it is not granted, the granting of it would not be good for you.

Martin Luther

'Wait on the Lord' and He will work (Psalm 37:34). But don't wait sulking spiritually and feeling sorry for yourself, just because you can't see one inch in front of you! Are we detached enough from our own spiritual fits of emotion to 'wait patiently for Him'? (37:7). Waiting is not sitting with folded hands doing nothing, but it is learning to do what we are told.

Oswald Chambers

Our real purpose
is to be of maximum
service to God and
those about us.

Source Unknown

We are to honor [God] in the trial — in that which is an affliction indeed and though there have been cases where God did not let His saints feel the fire, yet, ordinarily, fire hurts.
    But just here we are to glorify Him by our perfect faith in His goodness and love that has permitted all this to come upon us.
    And more than that, we are to believe that out of this is coming something more for His praise than could have come but for this fiery trial.
    We can only go through some fires with a large faith; little faith will fail. We must have the victory in the furnace.

Margaret Bottome in Streams in the Desert

Immediate, glad obedience to God sets our course on the sea of happiness. Disobedience drops anchor in the sea of despair.

Woodrow Kroll

But Jesus called them to him, and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: And whosoever of you will be the chief- est, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for

Mark 10:42-45

One of the hardest things in our secret prayer life is to accept with joy and not with grief the answers to our deepest prayers. At least I have found it so. It was a long time before I discovered that whatever came was the answer. I had expected something so different that I did not recognize it when it came.
    And He doesn't explain. He trusts us not to be offended;
that's all.

—Amy Carmichael in Candles in the Dark

While I still struggle with being single—I haven't always maintained that mountaintop experience—I've learned something about being content with where I am right now. I've realized I can't waste my life by waiting around for someone to come and make it worth living. Life itself is a beautiful thing. I've also learned that one of the wonderful benefits of being single is that I can actually—to my surprise—spend time just enjoying God.

Lori Smith

The good we choose and mean to do
Prospers if He wills it to,
And if not, then it fails.
Yet failure is not our disgrace,
By ways we cannot know
He keeps the merit in His hand,
And suddenly, as no-one planned,
Behold the Kingdom grow!

—James McAuley

Because we are adults, not infants, we can begin to deal with our fear of being abandoned, rejected, and deprived of love. We can discover that being lonely and being alone are not the same. Loneliness is not knowing who you are, and waiting for others to tell you [who you are]. But alone is being aware that you are — and that you are a distinct part of the complicated world that surrounds you. Loneliness is waiting to be touched. Alone is reaching out toward those you love and need. And you begin by reaching out to God.
    For what? For your identity. For an appreciation of your value as a person — and that has nothing to do with how many people love you or whether you do or don't have a family. It has everything to do with the fact that you were created by Someone who wants very much to have a lasting relationship with you.

—Phyllis Hobe

My goal is God Himself,
    not joy, nor peace,
Nor even blessing,
    but Himself,
    my God.

—Author Unknown

Finding a mate becomes less important when we find joy and meaning, because that hole in our heart isn't about a person. It's about fulfilling our God-given purpose — what we were created to do and be. Only then will you find true peace and satisfaction — whether you're married or not.

Michelle McKinney Hammond

As the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.

—Isaiah 62:5

We Christians must insist that self-control is possible. We have to learn to control our temper, our tongue, our greed, our jealousy, our pride: why should it be thought impossible to control our libido? To say that we cannot is to deny our dignity as human beings and to descend to the level of animals, which are creatures of uncontrolled instinct.

—John Stott

If you can keep reason above passion, that and watchfulness
will be your best defenders.

—Isaac Newton

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

—I Corinthians 6:9-11

Human fellowship can go to great lengths, but not all the way.

Fellowship with God can go to all lengths.

—Oswald Chambers


Perhaps some future day, Lord, Thy strong hand
Will lead me to the place where I must stand
Utterly alone.

Alone, O Gracious Lover, but for Thee;
I shall be satisfied if I can see
Jesus only.

I do not know Thy plan for years to come,
My spirit finds in Thee its perfect home,

Lord, all my desire is before Thee now,
Lead on, no matter where, no matter how--
I trust in Thee.

Elisabeth Elliot

Our satisfactions in life will be in proportion to our contributions."


The single who wants a meaningful and lasting relationship that involves emotional needs must ask, 'What do I have to offer to this person in terms of my own commitment? How much of my time, energy, talent, and money am I willing to commit to this person in order to experience the intimacy I desire?' Emotional intimacy, like sexual intimacy, will not last without commitment.

—Andre Bustanoby in Can Men and Women be Just Friends?

My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips: When I remember thee upon my bed, and meditate on thee in the night watches.

—Psalms 63:5

When problems mount and I feel alone, insecure, and afraid, I am to fill my mind with the security-building truth that at this moment a sovereign, loving, personal, infinite God is absolutely in control. In this knowledge I rest secure.

—Larry Crabb in Effective Biblical Counseling

Out from thyself, thyself depart;
God then shall fill thine empty heart;
Cast from thy soul life's selfish dream—
In flows the Godhead's living stream.

—Scheffler, tr. by Frederic Rowland Marvin

Perhaps one of the greatest advantages of the single life is freedom — freedom to come and go as much as we please without having to consult with husband, wife or children....But freedom does have responsibility. One day I shall have to account for how I used my freedom. Have I been selfishly indulgent, living to please myself, wasting my time? Have I spent my time wallowing in self-pity about my single state or about some problem that I feel is peculiarly and perhaps unfairly mine? One of the keys to a fulfilled life is a willingness to give ourselves for others. Jesus said, 'For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loves his life for me will find it' (Matt.16:25). Jesus recognised that there would be sacrifice somewhere. Either we give ourselves to the things of this world and lose the eternal, or we put first the things of God and gain spiritual riches and true fulfillment. Our personality can have full expression when we allow Him to direct our lives and purpose. The same applies in marriage — something which often today is overlooked....I think it is good for those of us who are single to remember that we are not the only ones called to make sacrifices!

—Elizabeth-Ann Horsford in Complete As One

I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.
—Edward Everett Hale

The fact that Jesus Himself found it possible and preferable to live and do His work for the salvation of humanity as a single person is significant. Marriage was not a requirement for perfection of personhood or fulfillment of the highest purposes in His life. If it is the privilege of the single adult to identify with Him in His singleness.
    —Evelyn King Mumaw in Woman Alone

Sing unto God, sing praises to his name: extol him that rideth upon the heavens by his name JAH, and rejoice before him.
    A father of the fatherless, and a judge [defender] of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.
    God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.
    —Psalm 68:4-6

A season of suffering is a small price to pay for a clear view of God.
    —Max Lucado

The young man was at the end of his rope. Seeing no way out, he dropped to his knees in prayer. 'Lord, I can't go on,' he said. 'I have too heavy a cross to bear.' The Lord replied, 'My son, if you can't bear its weight, just place your cross inside this room. Then, open that other door, and pick out any cross you wish.'
    The man was filled with relief. 'Thank you, Lord,' he sighed, and he did as he was told. Upon entering the other door, he saw many crosses, some so large the tops were not visible. Then he spotted a tiny cross leaning against a far wall. 'I'd like that one, Lord,' he whispered. And the Lord replied, 'My son, that is the cross you just brought in.'
    —Source Unknown

The more occupied our minds are with true caring for people, with achieving our goals, with beauty, with truth, projects, and communing with God, the less our bodies will become aroused sexually. However, training the mind to shift its focus from sex to some other interest can be a slow process. One does not necessarily achieve the desire to control one's mind in a month or even in a year. Attaining a celibate mind takes discipline, but the result is great freedom in friendships.

—Audrey Beslow in Sex and the Single Christian

Without sex as an outlet, we must be more creative in finding other outlets. This takes work. Sexually, two partners have given each other the power to not only invade their bodies but their entire personalities. When we abstain from sex, we must make sure that we not seal ourselves off from emotions and vulnerability that a sexually active couple gets automatically. We who abstain need to risk in other areas where the stakes are high: where our bodies may not be on the line but our egos are. We all have a certain amount of energy to put into relationships; energy that married couples use on each other and which singles can bestow on the persons of their choice. But we must choose someone or better still, a group of someones. The decision to put ourselves into intimate non-sexual relationships is the best option for the single Christian. This is what Jesus did.

—Julia Duin in Purity Makes the Heart Grow Stronger

I know in my heart that a committed celibate life cannot be sustained without regular and prolonged prayer because the relational void of not knowing experientially that I belong to somebody will erode even my most dogged efforts at

—Keith Clark in Being Sexual and Celibate.

People are often unreasonable, illogical,
and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, People may accuse you
of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some
false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank,
people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone
could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today,
people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have,
and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis,
it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

—Mother Teresa

There is joy, joy found in nowhere else, when we can look up into Christ's face when He says to us, 'Am I not enough for thee, Mine own?' with a true, 'Yes, Lord, thou art enough.'

—Amy Carmichael

Lord, You posted Your sign of love two thousand years ago, Your body nailed to a crossbeam outside of Jerusalem while the skies darkened and the earth shuddered. Forgive me for wanting more.

—Ruth Senter in
Longing for Love

God guides us by our ordinary choices, and if we are going to choose what He does not want, He will check, and we must heed.

—Oswald Chambers

We must never shy away from impossible situations. When the odds seem least favorable for our success, that is when God can gain the greatest glory.

—Woodrow Kroll

One of the devil's snares is to occupy us with the past and the future, so as to take away our peace for the present.


I am one single adult on an intense journey to a destination called wholeness, trying to make sense of a wonderful reality, a tenderly outrageous gift called Grace, modeled by a Galilean single adult who said, 'I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly' (John 10:10)... From wherever you are at this moment, you can begin the pilgrimage. There is a time called now. There is a place called here. There is a gracious invitation to which you can answer 'Yes!'

—Harold Ivan Smith

The Love that calls us into being, woos us to Himself, makes us His bride, lays down His life for us, and daily crowns us with lovingkindness and tender mercy, will not, no matter how it may appear in our loneliness, abandon us. "I will never [the Greek has five different negatives here], never, never, never leave you nor forsake you."

—Elisabeth Elliot

Coming to know the Lord in a deeper way means that we have much to give to a needy world. Jesus said to His disciples, 'The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field' (Matt. 9:37-8). One of the advantages of being single may be that we are, in a special way, free to serve.

—Elisabeth-Ann Horsford, Complete as One

GOD, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.

Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it. Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen

—The Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr (1926)

Everybody can be great...because anybody can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.

—Martin Luther King, Jr.

We shall come one day to a heaven where we shall gratefully know that God's great refusals were sometimes the true answers to our truest prayer. Our soul is fulfilled if our petition is not.

—Peter Taylor Forsyth

Whatever God asks you to lift, He gives you the Grace to carry.

—Roy Lessin

Whatever we have—time, talents possessions—if given to Christ will be used for our good and His glory.


When God issues a negative command, there are always two positive motives behind it: one, to protect you and the other to provide for you.

—Josh McDowell

True fulfillment is not deciding what we want to do, but discovering and completing the purposes for which God made us.

—Bill Gothard

The only place outside heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbances of love is hell.

—C.S. Lewis in The Four Loves

Accepting the time of singleness as a gift for growth, adventure and freedom to love, give and build puts the emphasis on living rather than on waiting or grasping.

—Audrey Beslow in Sex and the Single Christian

If the Lord is merciful, He would not leave you in a difficult position, unless it is merciful to leave you in that position.

—Kelly Tinning

Set apart for Jesus!
    Is not this enough?
Though the desert prospect
    Open wild and rough?
Set apart for His delight;
    Chosen for His holy pleasure
        Sealed to be His special treasure!
Could we choose a nobler joy?
    —and would we if we might?

—Quoted in Kept for the Masters Use by Frances Havergal

The secret of happiness is liking what you doŚnot doing what you like.


Perfection does not consist in understanding God's designs but in submitting to them.... The whole essence of the spiritual life consists in recognizing the designs of God for us at the present time.

—Jean-Pierre de Caussade (1675-1751)

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. It's what sunflowers do.

—Helen Keller

Desire without discipline breeds disappointment; but discipline without desire breeds drudgery.


In our day we miss the profound wisdom of Paul's counsel - marriage of necessity divides one's loyalties. The single person can concentrate with abandon on the advancement of the Kingdom of God.

—Richard Foster

If you or I close our hearts and indulge our feelings, we may find some miserably meager happiness. But we will forfeit our joy.

—Elisabeth Elliot

We may hope for the fulfillment of marriage because God created us to love one another. But whether or not we marry, God completes us with His love. His love is unconditional, selfless, and sacrificial. Its vigor sustains us and empowers us to reach wondrous heights singularly, without earthly assistance. When unconditional love takes flight in our hearts, our greatest missions can be flown solo.

—Tonya Stoneman

One of the things that prevents us from seeing God as He really is, is our preoccupation with how others behave toward us, when we should be worrying about the way we have behaved toward God. History shows that those who have really known God seem to have exhibited little concern about what others have done to them; they have been too busy focusing on how they could arrive at a better knowledge of Him.

—Selwyn Hughes

I have found that every experience in my life, if offered to Jesus, can be my gateway to joy.

Elisabeth Elliot

So much has been given to me; I have no time to ponder over what has been denied.

Helen Keller

One thing we do as humans is think that there is always something more to make us happy than what we have. The only guarantee beyond what we have is Jesus Christ. We want the job, the car, the spouse, the children, the house, the children to be older, the boss to be nicer, then retirement. We always want more. But singles like us must realize that while there are abundant things to be enjoyed in life, we will never be at a point where we can say, "I have finally gotten it all and I have arrived." Only in Heaven can we say that.

James Johnson

Refer this page to a friend

Back to top
Home | Articles | Bookstore | Discussion Board | Contact Us | About PS

©1998-2010 Purposeful Singleness. All rights reserved.